There is a Genius in your Child, but you have got to find it. As parents we need to be super vigilant and observe our children as they grow up. This genius often fades away with time. Have you ever wondered why?
As a parent of two lovely children who we homeschool rather unschool we would like to share what we learned. We noticed that some things worked out so well that my wife and I were truly amazed at how rapidly our children learned and developed skills.
6 Year old makes his own Wireless Car
To give you a super short teaser check out the video below where our 6 year old made this entirely by disassembling his toys and redesigning everything. Our eyes popped open with what he came up with. He was busy in his lab designing the whole thing while also soldering connections between the Wireless Circuit Board, DC Motor, LEDs, Wheels, Battery and the switch.
See what we mean? You have to believe that there is a Genius in your Child, the sooner you realize it the better.
Many parents we have come across do not realize the importance of the first 7 years of a child’s life. We learned from our experience that these are the most important years in a child’s development life-cycle. If we parents tap in those early years and make an effort on giving our children what matters and when it matters, it will have a remarkable effect on their lives. As time goes on the ability of our brains to change decreases significantly while the amount of effort required to make the change rapidly goes up. Which is why it is important that we tap in early on.
The chart below from the Harvard Center on the Developing Child explains it really well.
A famous quote often associated with the 4th Muslim Caliph is very relevant here where he advised people to:
“Play with them (children) for the first seven years (of their life); then teach them for the next seven years; then advise them for the next seven years (and after that).”Attributed to the 4th Muslim Caliph
Ask yourself this question very honestly, how much time of the day do you spend or did you spend playing with your children before the age of 7? This alone will help you analyze your situation.
Our Personal Story – Genius in your Child
Our first born Abzy whose video you just watched was very young when my wife and I were both busy with our careers. My wife a Medical Doctor was busy pursuing her advanced studies and as a Computer Engineer I’d be at work the standard 9 am to 5 pm which really means 9 am to 8 pm.
We noticed changes in his behavior, initially they were just tantrums but then it was behavior problems. Naturally as parents we were very concerned but unable to understand the root cause. A lot of our elders, relatives and friends advised we need to put him in a school with a generalized assumptions that:
- “Kids get settled in school”,
- “It’s just a phase, it will pass”
- “They learn manners in school when they look at other children”
Following the bandwagon we also tried public school but that miserably failed.
Why it failed? that’s a story for another time.
Long story short my wife started to give extra attention to Abzy and we observed a very big difference in his attitude. His behavior improved but it took time, patience and perseverance.
As a parent you can find that Genius in your children and it will be only when you let them be and observe closely. Give them as much exposure to different materials, environments as you safely can. This would introduce:
- build their personality
- help with their grooming
I am indebted to my wife who always took education in the most unconventional of ways and now we see the results paying off.
Children need attention, love and support. As parents we must realize that every child is different, they develop their talents and skills in their own time.
How we found Abzy is a Maker?
We noticed in his toddler years Abzy would be very observant and used to love getting hands-on with things. He would always be trying to open things up while being fascinated with household or baking tools in the kitchen. We also saw he would observe his grandfather repair stuff and would want to replicate the same very early on. I think he was 2 or 2.5 years old when he dismantled his chair and table using a screwdriver, we were all amazed. This gave us a hint as to what he might be good at and at the age of 6 he has been making some of the most innovative and amazing things.
You can check out some of the work done by him on our Youtube Channel.
All Children are Unique
We believe that all children are unique in their own way and have skills and abilities which differ from others. Comparing your children with others might be the biggest mistake parents do because not only does it put them in stress but also creates pressure for the child. While your children may not be a great thinkers, they may be good writers or computer geniuses. What if they were super good with woodwork but you never gave them that environment to grow?
If we expose our children early on to different activities and silently observe we can help them find their passion in the earlier stages of life and they wouldn’t grow up to be confused adults trying to find their passion and purpose in life. The more diversity we as parents offer them the more they will swim through their areas of strengths and weaknesses. They would have ample opportunity and time to fail and reattempt which is when they will truly learn.
As parents it is our responsibility that we take good care of our children to the best of our abilities.
This was one perspective from us, please do let us know in the comments section on what worked for you and your children.
Do check out our recommended list of documentaries for kids.